Okay, I dropped a pretty big bomb on you in my last post. If the way we do anything is the way we do everything, as Geneen Roth has taught us, then how the hell do we change the reflection we see when we examine our relationship with ourselves?
The answer is truly as simple… and as complicated as that.
Geneen Roth also teaches that lasting lifestyle and diet changes are not achieved by shame, deprivation, guilt, force or fear. The answer really is LOVE!
Lasting changes are made by loving ourselves. I don’t how else to say this.
They are also made by establishing a practice of self-compassion, self-care, self-respect and self-acceptance (essentially self-love). There.
You have probably tried some sort of diet before in an all out attempt to lose weight to feel better about yourself.
Let me guess… an all protein diet? A one Yoplait and one string cheese a day diet? The “I’ll only eat salad” diet or the celery stew diet for 10 straight days?
You may have found yourself eating a cheeseburger or a carton of ice cream within 24 hours of starting said diet. Then mercilessly hating yourself for not having enough will-power, good enough genetics or self-discipline – ouch.
The self-hate inner dialogue can feel like the Hotel California… “You can check-out any time you like, but you can never leave!”
I’ve been there.
Therefore, we both know it’s true – deprivation, fear, guilt, shame, and the all-pain-no-gain approach just doesn’t give you the results you want nor the sanity that will sustain you through a single day in this life.
So how the hell do you learn to love yourself?
Start with accepting yourself – however you are, in this moment, today.
If you feel broken, just accept that. Sit with that. Meditate on that. Feel that. And remember, you are not alone.
We are all broken in some way, somewhere. Once you stop fighting against it and accept it, you can allow yourself to be treated (by you) as the glowing light you truly are.
Chin up, buttercup! You’re on a beautiful journey of true-self-love…